Day 1 of my "pick a blog idea from my notes and run with it" challenge
- What would you say in couples therapy.
Most of my reading is done either in the bathroom or while procrastinating. Typically ideas for my writing come from the conversations I have within my own head triggered by things I have just read. And since a good portion of my "free time" to read is while I am in the bathroom, suffice to say that this blog idea came from something I read in Reader's Digest or some home magazine with Martha Stewart on the cover.
I do wish I knew what I was thinking when I jotted that sentence down. I would love to know what I was saying to the therapist and/or to my partner. Clearly the scenario was playing out in my head. Unfortunately I have no idea.
There hasn't been a time in many years that I thought counseling was needed or would be appreciated. So it's not like I had a laundry list of "well you........"s or "I need......."s to get out of my system. My guess is that I was probably questioning the validity of counseling, or praising it's ability to get people to communicate when they otherwise can't or won't.
Therapy is supposed to be a safe place. and sometimes it actually feels that way. For me, therapy was about the only place I would allow myself to be honest and vulnerable. And only ever with one therapist. But when I think back to those days. I wish everyone was able to have that experience. I know most do not.
As I sit here right now, the sentence "what would you say in couples therapy" does not trigger any powerful response. Since it's been over a year since I had the idea to write a blog about it, it's possible that whatever passion I had at that time has taken a back seat to something more prevalent.
That being said, if I was in couples therapy today, I would hope I would allow myself to be vulnerable and honest. I would hope I would feel OK to say I'm sorry, I'm scared, I'm hurt, I'm afraid etc. All the things I do not know how to say on my own.
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